January 25, 2008, Newsletter Issue #143: Spin-It to Win it – falling for the Dark side is too Easy

Tip of the Week

If something goes bad, or wrong, messed up, unexpected, not quite as you wanted etc, know that these things happen to everyone, it's a fact of life. Dust yourself off and carry on. SPIN IT means find a positive meaning or something you can learn from it. By learning something from a not so great thing, you've spun it to be a mini-triumph rather than all bad.

Two examples, while bankruptcy may seem like the end of the world to some, and forever financial bleakness another may spin it to be a success- they have accepted responsibility for screwing up, doing something about it and moving on.

One that happened this very morning to me- I received an email from a well-known auction site saying I had been booted off my account for at least seven days, this included my store which took several hours to built. Naturally, for a small while I was rather annoyed, but then decided to look at the positives. Here was an opportunity to improve my website, building a store within it rather than relying on the auction site for this and promo. I would save on auction fees and further the one-stop-shop idea for my website. To date I'm waiting to see if they'll let me back on- which would be nice, however if not I'll just get on and find another way without wasting too much time worrying about it, what's the point?!

In the above example I could easily and was very tempted to ‘fall for the Dark side'-very easily, emailing and calling people to moan at, emailing the auction site at length, staying in a dull mood all day.

BUT would that have been productive? Nope.
Boring? Certainly, for others to listen to, and listening to myself.
Fun? NO.
Easy? Yes, and it takes effort to spin it.

It's back to the thing of giving yourself a choice- “now, do I waste time and energy moaning and gloating or do I learn what I can, fix what I can and GET ON?” – to me it's a no-brainer.

Put a positive spin on a not-so-gone-well, learn from it and DON'T FALL FOR THE DARK SIDE-its pointless, boring, doesn't help yourself or others and is a perfect way to be unproductive and extremely UNATTRACTIVE! If fact, you dis-empower yourself it you put on the ‘Poor me' ‘tude!

It is said that you attract what you think about most, so if you fall for the dark side, what do you suppose you'll attract more of?

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